INFJ + ENTJ compatibility, relationships, dating
Any other INFJ's here in a successful relationship with an ENTJ? I always hear about ENTP or ENFP but never ENTJ. My partner and I have. This section INFJ-ENTJ relationship is about how these two personality types come together in a relationship. I am an ENTJ male crushing on an INFJ female. I am interested in how a relationship would theoretically work out.
We plan much and act little. When we're trying to act, we probably sit down and think about it for longer than we actually do anything. All of this is one of the ways having a Te thinker present can be very helpful, when you guys lay things out simply and practically, that is a definite highlight.
This sort of situational dynamic is where I would, just me, recommend you focus most of your flexibility energy.
Don't waste it on day-to-day emotions over whether Mr. Whatshisname was really frowning at her or not, or some other hokey. For that stuff, she could and should deal with it herself She should also know not to lean on you for trivialities An INFJ can handle that sort of thing, we have a tough side Straightforward direct communication is the way to go. About what you can handle, what she can handle.
Similarly to how you guys use Te to try to succeed in a relationship We're like memory foam, when a person really matters to us. Or that shipping foam that gets hard in the exact shape of the object after some time has passed. They can't just be there, we need to understand the root of it all. Once we get to that place, we finally feel connected. It starts to become real and meaningful to do everyday things together.
Originally Posted by Maxter I guess my question is when an INFJ is in a good relationship do they feel the need to be alone or is one on one with your partner fine? Anyway, do you think this has a chance to work out or is this just a waste of time? I can only speak for myself reliably Spending time with the other person is the highlight of life.
It's all the other people who are a problem. INFJ's usually have a very small "important people" circle. There are some highly social INFJ's Any more than a handful of friends seems highly social to me.
Yet with an SO, I can engage in a great deal of social interaction. Personally, I just hate to be abandoned into it, when I'm doing it for them.
Discussing issues is highly motivating to me Anything where Ni is involved, and we can say "let's be the clever people and solve this problem before it begins"makes me deliriously happy to sit down at the table and chat.
I love to delve deeply into human interaction, behaviors, psychology, ect ect. Most of us do. Yet, enneagram and instinctual variant does come into play here, so it's important to find out hers and what it means for her attitude towards these topics. When they say INFJ's are conflict avoidant ENTJ's are often quite sensitive to what they feel is passive-aggressive behavior.
Both tend to enjoy each other's uniqueness, not just in viewpoints but also in fashion, tastes and so on. Because both parties enjoy talking about the future, their conversations will more often revolve around future hopes and dreams and exciting possibilities. Struggles However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected.
Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance. The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled. A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper.
Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self. Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense.
The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions. Struggles Thinkers may hurt Feelers with their straightforward and sometimes tactless words; Feelers tend to take words personally; so when the Thinker provides negative feedback, it always evokes a larger than expected reaction from the Feeler.
Thinkers may not understand the Feeler's desire for harmony and hence avoidance of conflict. Thinkers often misinterpret Feeler's behavior and deem them complicated.
Feelers also tend to show affection much more naturally and sometimes they may feel their Thinking counterparts don't show enough of it; they may feel unfulfilled in the relationship. Judging-Judging Joys Because both value organization, they are likely to have a neat and tidy household with clear rules and standards, something which both parties will prefer.
They are likely also to plan their schedules with each other, with little or no issue with unnecessary last minute changes. They will also appreciate their partner's ability to keep up with the demands of everyday living and stay on top. They will likely be strong together with budgeting, there will be little or no issues with planning out finances together. Struggles Even though both parties may have standards in the household, they may have very different standards. Because both tend to be opinionated, their arguments and quarrels may be more intense.