You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are? | Scarleteen
He is extremely supportive and understanding person and we enjoy a very open and honest relationship as he likes to talk issue through as much as me (due to. Normal is not the first word that comes to mind when I think of myself and being pregnant. I may look all calm and cool from the outside, but I'm. Her and the husband have a great relationship. Only during pregnancy is she paranoid. I would just keep reminding yourself that everything is ok for the time.
I know it's crazy sounding but the feeling is intense enough that I know it isn't "normal". I feel it's almost an instinct. I try and suppress it anyway because it annoys me and it annoys my DH! I'm soooo glad to hear I'm not the only one, though! Thx for posting everyone, feeling less like a madwoman. He goes to work and home that's it. With my dd I had no problems but this pregnancy I just have this fear he's going to cheat. He of course says that'll never happen and it helps but doesn't.
What guy doesn't say "oh I won't cheat" lol I know I have an amazing husband I just need to take a chill pill imaginary lol B Boukzwifey I really think this is part of pregnancy.
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Im a very secure person when im not pregnant and i have noticed in both my pregnancies iv become a little insecure at time. Without noticing at first and realizing what the feeling was i just kind of assumed it because i have gained a belly and dont feel "sexy" when im pregnant.
I get alot of vivd dreams of my DH cheating as well with random women in my life. Its crazy, my husband would never but i still wake up from these dreams and stink eye him ahah m megamushumom I think it all stems over being insecure over the changing body during pregnancy. Do what you can to love yourself and the changes going on.
When you feel more confident in yourself you may find your faith and confidence in your relationship being more sound. Hope that makes sense. Hugs c courtwellman Oh my gosh! I just had a dream last night involving me, my husband and his ex! They've been broken up now for over 3 years and he only dated her like 7 months.
We dated all through high school broke up for 2 years and got back together. I don't know where these dreams come from, but they suck! I just rolled over and cuddled up to him. Made me feel better: That game yesterday was soo crazy with the weather!
My hubby is a huge bears fan and watching it from home was even exhausting. Lol But anyway- sorry you feel this way- I seem to do the same thing but know in my heart he'd never do that. I think it's just hormones Try and be strong and trust him. If he's not giving you a reason to mistrust than don't make it worse. I thought it was just me! When I was pregnant with our son I had the feeling! If and when we're engaging in the kinds of sex that can create a pregnancy, in reality, and are doing so without also doing anything, or effective things, to reduce the risk of pregnancy, pregnancy at some point is a likely outcome.
But that isn't because, even if this is part of your belief system, g-d decided to punish people. It's because of biology: Figure out how to square your belief system, if it's yours, with reality and science. If they can't fit together, you have to know that while your beliefs may have value to you or others, they really can't dictate realities or create situations like a pregnancy just by you believing them. If this isn't your belief system, find your own, one that really feels right for you and makes sense with reproductive realities.
Again, if your belief system or someone else's is causing you more pain than enlightenment or peace, I'd suggest you shop around and pick another one. You have some kind of anxiety disorder, like OCD. That's as many people as use smartphones to use the internet; as many people in the world who are left-handed.
In other words, anxiety disorders are very common. The median onset age -- when it usually starts -- for OCD is Anxiety disorders aren't just about feeling anxiety or panic. One thing that's common with them is having, and holding onto, irrational fears and very unpleasant thoughts or ideas.
When someone starts having those unpleasant or "bad" thoughts, they increase anxiety even more, then create even more unpleasant thoughts, causing a really awful, ever-escalating cycle of your own personal hell. Anxiety disorders can also make those thoughts or ideas feel very real, even when the situations you're stuck on really aren't real, even when the last thing you'd want is for them to be real.
Anxiety is a health issue that will usually only resolve itself, and stop derailing your head and your life, when addressed by a healthcare provider, just like strep throat is a health issue that will usually only resolve itself, and stop getting worse, when addressed by a healthcare provider. To deal with it, you'll need some kind of treatment, even though every treatment approach isn't the right one for all people. You'll need to go and see a qualified mental healthcare provider or, if you need a referral for that first, or feel more comfortable starting this way, to see a general physician.
You'll tell them about these persistent fears, let them make a diagnosis and try what they suggest, giving whatever it is -- medication, a kind of talk therapy, suggestions about what to change in your life so these fears get triggered less or you manage them better, or all of the above -- time to help. Something else is up with your reproductive system or general health. Other things besides pregnancy can present symptoms and feelings similar to pregnancy, or the feeling or sureness that one is pregnant.
A feeling of abdominal fullness or "fluttering," for example, can be something people who are pregnant experience, but it's also something people with gallbladder disease, PCOS or a plain old case of gas experience.
Periods can be missed or skipped for all kinds of reasons: Other mental health conditions besides anxiety disorders can play a part in people thinking they are pregnant when they're not.
I don't mean to freak you out when you're already freaked, but some people who experience false pregnancy, or pseudocyesismay even instead have a form of cancer that can present with similar symptoms, like ovarian cancer. Just because what you're experiencing or feeling are things described as pregnancy symptoms doesn't mean they are, and doesn't mean those physical feelings aren't real: A healthcare provider, where you are going to tell them about this even if it feels a bit batty to say it out loudand let them take it from there with you.
You are engaging in sex you really don't feel ready for, or when you just don't have what you need yet in order to feel okay about it. We can want a thing but not be ready for that thing, or not yet have the right conditions for it to be or feel right for us.
Just wanting a thing doesn't make us ready to handle it. Just wanting a thing doesn't magic us the exact right partnerrelationshiptiming, support or other conditions we need for it to be a good thing, or something that's right for us. But when we're doing something that isn't right for us, or that we don't feel ready for, and one of the things that would make it wrong or be something we couldn't handle is a possible outcome like pregnancy?
We can easily lock-on to that consequence, and not see the forest through the trees. It can also be easier sometimes to get stuck on pregnancy as the scary thing than it can to address that sex for us, at a given time, or in a given situation, is the scary thing, especially if the something about saying no or not-now to sex involves conversations we are afraid to have, or other possibilities we want even less, like someone choosing not to keep dating us because they want a sexual relationship we're not ready for.
Stop having the kinds of sex that are freaking you out. It is okay not to be ready for sex, or to have certain conditions we need or want where only with those conditions is it right for us. Being ready for sex doesn't prove or disprove anything universal about us or our maturity, and not having all we need at a given time for sex to be right for us doesn't prove anything other than that we can't always get what we want, something the Rolling Stones already told all of us half a century ago.
Figure out what you need to feel ready and okay, before during and after, and hold those lines for yourself. You can do sexual things, be that masturbation or some kinds of sex with partners, that you DO feel good about, things that don't freak you out like this. But until you really have what you need not to feel so freaked, do yourself a solid and take whatever is making things so scary for you off the table completely.
If a partner isn't okay with that, as much as it stinks, it just may be the timing is off for you and them right now: No one is wrong in a situation like that, because we get to want different things.
Just like other kinds of compatibility in relationships, sometimes what any two people want when it comes to sex just won't mesh, so we have to know that clearly we're just not the right people for each other right now. Partner really not okay with that? Your relationship is abusive, controlling, coercive or otherwise unhealthy It is scary to be pregnant within an abusive or otherwise unhealthy relationship.
It's much harder to leave them when that happens, and when a kid winds up being part of them, in some way you are forever tied to that person through your kid, and your kid winds up with an abuser as a parent. It's also scary all by itself to be in an unhealthy relationship and all that comes with it, which often or eventually includes sexual abuse, assault or sexual coercion. It makes sense to be scared in this kind of relationship or interaction because these are things that can or do deeply harm us, that put or keep us in very real danger, and harm and danger are scary.
Reproductive coercion is also a very common part of sexually unhealthy relationships, so maybe that's already happening to you, or you are validly scared that it will. But because you're not pregnant right now, it's not a pregnancy that's making you scared. It's your relationship, and all that could happen to you, within it.
Recognize and accept -- I know it's hard -- when your relationship isn't a healthy one, and when it is putting you in some kind of harm or danger. When we feel very scared in a relationship, there's usually a good reason for that.
Then start taking steps -- I know that can be even harder -- to get out or away, as soon and as safely as you can. Tell someone you know you can trust, who cares about you, who you know or are pretty sure will help you and support you.
Seek out help and support from a domestic or interpersonal violence group or shelter if needed. Ask us for help in one of our direct services: Abusive or otherwise unhealthy relationships pretty much never get better, and almost always only get worse. The only way to make things better and safer for yourself, and to stop living in fear, is to get out of them.
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Sex hasn't felt or didn't feel as important or big as you wanted it to, or thought it would, so you're trying to add something big to it so it does. I think it's safe to say that much of the time, most people want sex to be something important, especially when we're young and it's new, and so many sexual experiences are first-times; especially if and when they happen with other feelings and relationships that are first times, like first loves or big losses.
If and when we engage in sex we want to be big, important and to have some magnitude and it doesn't, it can feel disappointing, confusing or depressing, and we might try and make it bigger so that it can feel bigger.
See if you can't figure out why sex isn't feeling like as big of a deal, or as important, as you would like it to or thought it would. Is it about having expectations that aren't realistic? If so, work on adjusting them. Is it about not getting things that are realistic, that you want or need, but aren't happening right now, or with a given person?
See if you can't get a handle on what those things are, then make some adjustments, like being clear you want those things, only engaging in sex in certain relationships or contexts that make it big, making sure you're with someone for who it is as big of a deal as it is to you, or by only going into it when it truly feels like something big to you, rather than engaging in sex in ways where you have to act more casual than you feel.
You are unconsciously trying to test your relationship or your partner to see how it, you and a partner would handle a pregnancy crisis. I'm not saying this is something you're doing on purpose though people can do it on purpose sometimes.
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I'm saying you might be holding onto this fear, or even manufacturing it, because it could be a real situation sometime, or with things you have been doing, and you want to see how you or a partner would handle it. Or you want to see how serious your partner is about you, period. Ask your partner what they think they might want to do, and how they might handle a pregnancy crisis.
Have a talk about it, so you can go ahead and get the information you're seeking. If you are concerned your partner isn't committed enough to you to stick around if you became pregnant, again, ask them. See what they say. If you don't feel like you can trust them to be real in what they are saying, or in general, reconsider the relationship or being sexual with this person. You want to be pregnant. When we want something badly, we can convince ourselves it's happening when it isn't.
Some people do want to be pregnant very badly. Sometimes people were pregnant, had a pregnancy loss, and still wish they were pregnant or want to be pregnant again. Some people want that when it feels like the right time to be pregnant, and when they very much want to parent. Some people want to be pregnant even if they don't actually want to be parents or give birth: And sometimes people may want to be pregnant even if something about a pregnancy, or everything about a pregnancy, would be a very negative situation.
Sometimes we want weird things, or want even unwanted situations, though that seems like a paradox. Sometimes we just really want care and attention, and we can see that some pregnant people seem to get a lot of it. Figure out what you really want. Do you want to be pregnant, are you trying to become pregnant, and you're just aching to be a parent?
It can be frustrating when pregnancy doesn't happen as quickly as you want it to, or when the irritations and conflicts of trying to create one are gunking up your relationship, your life, your heart or your head. Seek out support from others in or who have been in the same spot, a partner, family, a counselor or a therapist, especially if you think or know these feelings are due to a pregnancy loss.
Do some things in advance you can do before being pregnant that you might be too wiped out to do if and when you are. Take care of yourself: If you know now isn't the right time or situation to become pregnant, or that some part of it -- like a kid you have to parent their whole lives, not just when they're tiny and cute -- really isn't even something you want, but you still want to be pregnant for some reason, think about the things you are hoping it would give you, and see if you can't figure out other ways to get those things.
Time spent with kids? Offer to babysit for your friends, mentor and care for kids in your family, look into teaching or daycare as jobs. More attention paid to you? Ask for it from the people you care about: Parents or other people acknowledging you're becoming an adult? Again, you can ask for that, you don't have to be pregnant to get that and as plenty of teen parents going through pregnancy and parenting with their parents will tell you, often you wind up with adults treating you like more of a child when you get pregnant, not less.
Whatever it is you can pinpoint your actual desires as being, focus and go after those in ways that are real and more sound. You're bored or unstimulated and are manufacturing a crisis or are seeking attention. Maybe you even like feeling afraid. People, all people, need and want attention from others. It's not just a child or teenage thing, it's a people thing. But when you're a teen or a young adult, there is this weird back and forth that can happen where you go from being smothered in attention to only getting it when you mess up in some way, or when something is horribly wrong.
Sometimes being given more freedom and room to be on your own can wind up feeling like being abandoned or neglected. It's okay to want and need attention; it's okay to seek it out when you're not getting what you need.
Same goes for wanting stimulus when you feel bored or unstimulated. To want to be deeply engaged in life, to have big things going on, isn't a bad thing or you being a dope. It's wanting to really live a life, one that engages and challenges us. What if you like how it feels to be afraid? I know that sounds weird. But let's look at some things feeling fear does: It floods our body with a bunch of different hormones that give us stimulation and some serious energy.